Here’s a fun tidbit about the old phrase Nature and Nurture and why they’re connected:
Did you know that when you achieve something or are successful in an outcome, it increases the dopamine receptors in your brain, which makes you smarter and more courageous?
This is because the brain releases large amounts of testosterone and dopamine when we get highly excited about something.
…. I want to tell you about the very first presentation I ever did. The very first time I stood in front of a group of people and delivered a presentation. I was shaking in my boots, my hands were sweaty, my voice quivering. I just wanted to curl into fetal position. The entire time, I was thinking ‘Gosh what must they think of me?’ or ‘Can they see my leg trembling with fear?’ Oh… did I mention that public speaking was my number one fear? Yes, that’s right. The number one fear, up there with death.
After that mortifying experience, I had a choice.
I could choose to run away, or face my fear head on. I made the decision to invest time overseas and nurture my presentation and public speaking skills to be the person I aspired to be. My teacher once said to me: ‘the only way to cure insecurity is to do more of it until you become an expert’. This was not quite what I wanted to hear at the time. However, they turned out to be very wise words.
As with anything ….when you nurture something – invest your time and energy – you are feeding it, developing it and cultivating the very thing you want to create.
It’s the same with any form of new learning.
Over time, learning changes our brain’s structure and its chemical makeup: making us smarter, more confident, and able to take on larger challenges than before. For me, honing my speaking skills – getting feedback, practicing without an audience as well as with one – all simply added up to ‘time in the saddle’. I got better and better, and more comfortable. Several years later, it feels perfectly natural for me to present to large groups. I don’t sweat it anymore!
This is why personal development is such an important part of shifting your mindset – to create a new brain, a new you.
TRUE FULFILLMENT NEVER COMES FROM CHASING OTHER PEOPLE’S DREAMS. IT COMES FROM YOU DESIGNING YOUR LIFE BASED ON WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU ASPIRE TO BE.
When you are doing things for you and driving your own goals, there is more energy and drive for personal growth, which is a human need. The day we stop learning is the day we die.